Charles and his wife Betsy |
Charles loved me unconditionally and I still don't know why. I would cry and he would let me. We talked, laughed, passed notes and shared private jokes for two years. He treated me like a Princess and told me that any guy would be lucky to date me ( I was still in my awkward ugly stage). He was gorgeous, about 6 feet tall, a diver with jet black hair and beautiful brown eyes. He had that dark Latin skin (he's Cuban) and those super white teeth that kinda blinded you. Ahh, the beauty that was uniquely Charles. Lots of girls wanted his time and attention. But he seemed unfazed and would always find me in a crowd. The two years we spent together along with Erica, Carlos, Christina and DeWayne were just what I needed before heading out into the real world. I was a year older than Charles and so I graduated, left town and came back the following year to see Charles and my sister graduate. But by this time the inseparable duo had come apart. Oh, don't get me wrong! I still love Charles with all my heart but we have not physically seen each other in 25 years.
DeWayne and I at our 25 year reunion |
And she said, "You are Hilarie. Charles told me about you.....he told me that you were the only platonic (female) relationship he ever had and that you guys were really good friends." Then she said, "its nice to finally meet you."
I smiled and inside I felt like the 16 year old princess Charles once told me I was. We chatted about Charles and other friends and had a really good meeting. It was a great day.
Robb and I, may he RIP |
Over the years there were other men whom I have shared and continue to share powerful friendships with....DeWayne, Robb, Michael, Bruce, Elyess, Paco, Jay and Nate. But Charles started it all with unconditional love, his calm demeanor and his acceptance of my very "girlie" behavior at time. I will always love him for these things. I wish every girl could have "A Charles" in their lives.
Paco, Elyess and me |
1. All friendships are important. Humans are social creatures and weren't created to be alone.
2. Everyone needs someone to talk to.The opposite sex are great sounding boards.
3. The opposite sex provides insight that might not otherwise be taken into account. Charles was great at that. I remember once whining to Charles that a cute boy I liked did not say Hi in the hallway. After going through all my teenage hysteria and female dramatics, Charles simply said....go up to him and say "HI" maybe he didn't see you! Can I tell you it worked like a charm. LOL
4. Male female relationships teach you how to communicate with the opposite sex.
5. I need my guy friends in raising this boy, I have lots of questions and I ask them.
6. Some of these friendships can turn into the greatest love affairs, but all will not. I did marry and eventually divorced a childhood friend of mine.
7. Charles taught me to accept people at face value and not wish for them to be more.
8. He also taught me that men can be emotional creatures and they need hand holding too.
9. I learned from my male friends that they need to talk too and when they do, let them.
10. The most important thing I learned from Charles is that every man needs a good buddy and every woman needs that great girlfriend. But opposite sex friendships are just plain fun and can be downright hilarioius!
Me, DeWayne, Edgar and Erica |
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Nate and My Mom in NC |
Amen. I have always enjoyed male/female friendships. In fact, My mother taught me to make FRIENDS out of ex-boyfriends!!!!!!!!!!! It works! YOUR MOM!
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